About Andrew Schank

Andrew Schank is an Independent Baptist Missionary/Pastor who loves to blog about spiritual matters! His main ministry website is http://www.togetherinthegap.com. Andrew is also a contributing author to two other blogs/websites including http://linked2leadership.com and http://www.ifbkjv.com. Pastor Schank's Church website is http://www.greatcommissionbaptist.org

Sinful Responses To Criticism | Coping With Criticism – A Pastor’s Nightmare

I am not sure what exactly it is in a leader which makes them somewhat hostile when criticisms arise. Many times a spiritual leader will tend to respond to criticism in a sinful way. It might not be very noticeable at first, but the root of retribution could be just beneath the surface.

Personal Testimony
I know from my own actions that it is real easy to respond to criticism in a sinful way. We must be careful to be directed by the Holy Ghost when responding to anything, but especially criticism. I have hurt my closest family members and friends, more times than I care to think about, by letting my flesh control my mouth! I’ll bet you have done the same thing. God warns us about this in James 3:5-12.

Common Responses


Many times we respond inappropriately to criticism. Listed below are some common responses to, what could be, our best ally in practical Christian living:

  1. Anger
  2. Resentment
  3. Hostility
  4. Bitterness
  5. Evil Communication
  6. Gossip
  7. Retaliation
  8. Close Mindedness
  9. Loss Of Friendship
  10. Hurt Feelings… To The Extent That It May Be Irreparable
How To Respond Appropriately

  • THINK before you speak! – James 1:19
  • Remember that you do not have to respond immediately to what is being said. It is sometimes best to chew upon what has been handed to you! – Proverbs 27:6
  • Be polite and say, “Thank you!” – Proverbs 15:1
  • Try not to add any heat to the situation, no matter how awkward things might seem! – Proverbs 26:20
  • Spare your words. Remember that God is keeping a record too! – Proverbs 17:27-28
Conclusion

We are all human, but we can do our dead level best to respond to criticism in the right manner. Responding to criticism is crucial to Christian maturity. For many of God’s children, being criticized is what unravels us. Satan knows this and will seek to exploit it any time he gets a chance. Be on guard 24/7, especially if you are a pastor or spiritual leader.

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6016X: Whatever Happened to Worship? Whatever Happened to Worship?

By A.W. Tozer / Wingspread Publishers

Decrying much of contemporary worship as entertainment, Tozer says, “When we are worshipping…if the love of God is in us and the Spirit of God is breathing praise within us, all the musical instruments in heaven are suddenly playing in full support.” Originally preached as sermons at Avenue Road Alliance Church in Toronto, the chapters of Whatever Happened to Worshipconvey Tozer’s attitude and thoughts on Christian worship.

Criticism – A Gift From God | Coping With Criticism – A Pastor’s Nightmare

Criticism is not something that we naturally enjoy. No matter who is sharing their thoughts with us, we all tense up and hope that what is said won’t be too scathing. How soon we forget that all criticism is not harmful! I guess that since most is considered to be bad, then we tend to generalize all as being so. This post will seek to help us see that criticism is a gift from God!

When holidays, birthdays, anniversaries and special occasions come around, we seek out an appropriate gift for the person(s). After we contemplate what to give, we acquire the present and go to the person with it. I do not think God is much different from us. Although He doesn’t need a lot of time because He works outside the concept of it, He does reveal many gifts to us each day.

The gift of physical life is especially precious to all of us who know the Lord as our Saviour. The wonderful gift of everlasting life is our greatest gift from God. The list goes on and on. However, the gift of criticism is not even on our list. Why is that? Maybe it is because we view it as an enemy?

(James 1:17) “Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning.”  (KJV)

God’s gifts are perfect and complete! Though they may smart at times, they are our friends. God gave all of us faith and repentance when we were initially saved. I, for one, know that repentance hurt some, but was one of the best gifts I ever received from my Lord!

Listed below are four very important principles that we need to remember when God gives us the “gift” of criticism.

#1 – God Has Allowed This To Come Into Our Life

Rather than immediately jumping into defensive mode, we should recognize that God has allowed this person(s) to confront us. It may be to sharpen us as a better tool, or it may be to test our character in the face of cruelty. Either way, we must see this as God’s will. Remember that even when someone is ranting in the flesh and being used by Satan that we can learn something from it. Ask yourself the question, “God, what are you trying to teach me?” (Often easier said than done!)

#2 – God Has Decided To Trust Us With This Gift

Think about this… God thought enough of you that He can trust you with this gift of circumstance! WOW! How honored and privileged we are to have this occur in our lives. As hard as it may be to see this side of criticism, we must keep this sort of attitude. When doing so, even our enemies, according to the flesh, will be enamored by our character and integrity!

#3 – God Has A Plan For This Gift In Our Life

If God has allowed criticism to enter our life, and He thought enough of us that He can trust us with it, then we can be assured that He has a wonderful plan for it in our lives! God works everything together for our good and His glory. Even criticism can be used to help us, whether we think of it this way or not!

(Romans 8:28) “And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.”  (KJV)

#4 – God Will Hold Us Accountable As To How We Use This Gift

Just like every other gift He gives us in life, we will be held accountable for how we respond to the gift of criticism. Enough said!

Conclusion…

It is my hope that this post helped you recognize that criticism is a wonderful gift from God. When we see it’s greatness, the sting of momentary harshness will be better enjoined. Pastor, no matter how hard it may be, criticism is a gift that God wants you to have. Medicine may be swallowed while you hold your nose, but it helped you despite the dicomfort. Criticism may seem like this sometimes!

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Examining The Sting Of Criticism | Coping With Criticism – A Pastor’s Nightmare

As we have mentioned in previous posts, no person likes to be criticized. It makes us feel uncomfortable, and uneasy. As a spiritual leader, and pastor, you know that you are not above criticism, but it still doesn’t ease your pride any. After all, you stick your neck out each time you teach and preach. In fact, you put yourself into a position to be criticized. Even knowing this ahead of time does not take the sting away!

The Cause Of The Sting…
Whether the criticism given to us by our peers is meant to be constructive or not, there is that STING which hurts so badly at times. Most of the time it is just one small word of statement that sends that enormous pain to our hearts. Sometimes it is the tone of voice or the look someone gives you as they share their thoughts. No matter how long you live, nobody gets used to the STINGof criticism.The Reason It Stings…

When you take a moment and think about why some criticisms STING so badly, it usually comes down to about three things.

  1. Our Pride Gets Hurt! – Something is said that we disagree with and it hurts our feelings.
  2. We Are Embarrassed By Someone’s Observation! – Sometimes people point out something awkward or embarrassing that occurred which we thought nobody saw. This is sometimes flaunted when a person wants to criticize another.
  3. The Criticism Hits A Nerve Because Of Truth! – The Holy Spirit of God will prick our conscience with truth whenever it is presented to us. Though many times the STING is from someone trying to be cruel, often it is the Holy Spirit trying to correct us. We would do well to take notice!

Conclusion…

The STING of criticism is worth pondering. Looking back over the years it is that awful STING which has done the most good for me. In fact, it has been a great teaching tool! How about you? Does the STING of criticism reveal areas for correction in your life?

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543369: The John Phillips New Testament Commentary, 19 Volumes The John Phillips New Testament Commentary, 19 Volumes

By Kregel Publications

Explore the entire New Testament in greater depth. This complete set of New Testament commentaries from the pen of expositor John Phillips will provide pastors, Sunday school teachers, and students of the Bible with doctrinally sound interpretation that emphasizes the practical application of Bible truth. Preachers especially will appreciate these commentaries as they provide a model and resource for sermons and lessons. Working from the familiar King James Version, Dr. Phillips not only provides helpful commentary on the text, but also includes detailed outlines and numerous illustrations and quotations. Anyone wanting to explore the meaning of God’s word in greater detail for personal spiritual growth or as a resource for preaching and teaching will welcome the guidance and insights of this respected series.

A frequent speaker at churches, conferences, and workshops across North America, John Phillips served as assistant director of the Moody Correspondence School as well as director of the Emmaus Correspondence School, one of the world’s largest Bible correspondence ministries. He also taught in the Moody Evening School and on the Moody Broadcasting radio network. He and his wife, Betty, live in Bowling Green, Kentucky.

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