What Goes Around, Comes Around | Coping With Criticism – A Pastor’s Nightmare

There is an old saying where I grew up that went something like this, “What goes around, comes around!” Not only was that true in my life as a teenager, but also into adulthood. Hard lessons have been learned from this great axiom. When contemplating the subject of criticism, we find that nothing changes. In fact, this maxim’s accuracy is correct 100% of the time! Let us go a little further below the surface….


Note Our Previous Posts In This Series:

Coping With Criticism – A Pastor’s Nightmare | Introduction
Thankfulness For Those Who Criticized You
Criticism – A Gift From God
An Important, Self Examining Question
Examining The Sting Of Criticism
Assumptions On Our Part
Sinful Responses To Criticism.


General Bible Principle…
In Hosea 8:7Hosea 8:7
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7 For they have sown the wind, and they shall reap the whirlwind: it hath no stalk: the bud shall yield no meal: if so be it yield, the strangers shall swallow it up. stalk: or, standing corn  

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, we find a phrase where this philosophy of “what goes around, comes around” could have been derived. Speaking of judgment upon Israel, Hosea remarks about the fruits of their unrighteousness coming home. The Apostle Paul spoke about this same idea in Galatians 6:7-9Galatians 6:7-9
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7 Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. 8 For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting. 9 And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.  

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. We reap what we sow! The fact of the matter is that whatever we do in life, good or bad, will have consequences.

Though many verses of Scripture can be used to form a foundation for this idea, no other biblical event depicts this more than Haman and the Jews. You can find out more about this event by reading the Old Testament book of Esther, if you are not familiar with it. In this Biblical record, you will find a man who criticized, demonized, and sought the destruction of Mordecai, a Jew. He actually had gallows built so he could hang Mordecai! In spite of his best efforts, Haman was the poor soul who was put to death by those gallows.

From My Own Experience…

Growing up in a perpetual set of difficult circumstances, I was very prone to share my “mind” about others… without the least bit of reservation. Though very much a fault, it has taught me many valuable lessons. One of which is that I best be careful about pointing out fault in the lives of others. Grandma had a saying that we should sweep around our own door before doing so around someone else’s! I think she was very wise!

I do not have a shortage of personal stories of where I put my foot in my mouth, and did exactly what I accused others of doing. I have spoken very harshly about someone and they immediately performed a good deed for me… putting me to open shame! I share this in brevity to make it absolutely clear, no matter who we are, people are susceptible to criticize others and reap the consequences of their actions!

Encouragement For Today…

Knowing that criticism can be very helpful, no matter the motivating purpose behind it, God will see to it that right prevails in His timing. Mordecai had a rough time with Haman, but God worked things out. In my arrogance and stupidity, I have made many critical mistakes; harshly criticizing other people. I have reaped, am reaping, and will continue to reap from these awful seeds I have sown. I know that other people who have done the same to me will endure the judgment of God as well.
ConclusionMake no mistake about this, God knows what is going on. Never is there a word spoken that He does not hear. Take courage in the Lord when you are insulted, defamed, demonized, and criticized. God will take care of your reputation. Learn what you can from the friend of criticism and move on!

Look For Our Last Post In This Series: The Danger Of Over-Reacting! Coming soon…

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Criticism – A Gift From God | Coping With Criticism – A Pastor’s Nightmare

Criticism is not something that we naturally enjoy. No matter who is sharing their thoughts with us, we all tense up and hope that what is said won’t be too scathing. How soon we forget that all criticism is not harmful! I guess that since most is considered to be bad, then we tend to generalize all as being so. This post will seek to help us see that criticism is a gift from God!

When holidays, birthdays, anniversaries and special occasions come around, we seek out an appropriate gift for the person(s). After we contemplate what to give, we acquire the present and go to the person with it. I do not think God is much different from us. Although He doesn’t need a lot of time because He works outside the concept of it, He does reveal many gifts to us each day.

The gift of physical life is especially precious to all of us who know the Lord as our Saviour. The wonderful gift of everlasting life is our greatest gift from God. The list goes on and on. However, the gift of criticism is not even on our list. Why is that? Maybe it is because we view it as an enemy?

(James 1:17James 1:17
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17 Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning.  

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) “Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning.”  (KJV)

God’s gifts are perfect and complete! Though they may smart at times, they are our friends. God gave all of us faith and repentance when we were initially saved. I, for one, know that repentance hurt some, but was one of the best gifts I ever received from my Lord!

Listed below are four very important principles that we need to remember when God gives us the “gift” of criticism.

#1 – God Has Allowed This To Come Into Our Life

Rather than immediately jumping into defensive mode, we should recognize that God has allowed this person(s) to confront us. It may be to sharpen us as a better tool, or it may be to test our character in the face of cruelty. Either way, we must see this as God’s will. Remember that even when someone is ranting in the flesh and being used by Satan that we can learn something from it. Ask yourself the question, “God, what are you trying to teach me?” (Often easier said than done!)

#2 – God Has Decided To Trust Us With This Gift

Think about this… God thought enough of you that He can trust you with this gift of circumstance! WOW! How honored and privileged we are to have this occur in our lives. As hard as it may be to see this side of criticism, we must keep this sort of attitude. When doing so, even our enemies, according to the flesh, will be enamored by our character and integrity!

#3 – God Has A Plan For This Gift In Our Life

If God has allowed criticism to enter our life, and He thought enough of us that He can trust us with it, then we can be assured that He has a wonderful plan for it in our lives! God works everything together for our good and His glory. Even criticism can be used to help us, whether we think of it this way or not!

(Romans 8:28Romans 8:28
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28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.  

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#4 – God Will Hold Us Accountable As To How We Use This Gift

Just like every other gift He gives us in life, we will be held accountable for how we respond to the gift of criticism. Enough said!


It is my hope that this post helped you recognize that criticism is a wonderful gift from God. When we see it’s greatness, the sting of momentary harshness will be better enjoined. Pastor, no matter how hard it may be, criticism is a gift that God wants you to have. Medicine may be swallowed while you hold your nose, but it helped you despite the dicomfort. Criticism may seem like this sometimes!

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Originally posted 2010-09-20 23:01:00. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

Examining The Sting Of Criticism | Coping With Criticism – A Pastor’s Nightmare

As we have mentioned in previous posts, no person likes to be criticized. It makes us feel uncomfortable, and uneasy. As a spiritual leader, and pastor, you know that you are not above criticism, but it still doesn’t ease your pride any. After all, you stick your neck out each time you teach and preach. In fact, you put yourself into a position to be criticized. Even knowing this ahead of time does not take the sting away!

The Cause Of The Sting…
Whether the criticism given to us by our peers is meant to be constructive or not, there is that STING which hurts so badly at times. Most of the time it is just one small word of statement that sends that enormous pain to our hearts. Sometimes it is the tone of voice or the look someone gives you as they share their thoughts. No matter how long you live, nobody gets used to the STINGof criticism.The Reason It Stings…

When you take a moment and think about why some criticisms STING so badly, it usually comes down to about three things.

  1. Our Pride Gets Hurt! – Something is said that we disagree with and it hurts our feelings.
  2. We Are Embarrassed By Someone’s Observation! – Sometimes people point out something awkward or embarrassing that occurred which we thought nobody saw. This is sometimes flaunted when a person wants to criticize another.
  3. The Criticism Hits A Nerve Because Of Truth! – The Holy Spirit of God will prick our conscience with truth whenever it is presented to us. Though many times the STING is from someone trying to be cruel, often it is the Holy Spirit trying to correct us. We would do well to take notice!


The STING of criticism is worth pondering. Looking back over the years it is that awful STING which has done the most good for me. In fact, it has been a great teaching tool! How about you? Does the STING of criticism reveal areas for correction in your life?

Look For Our Next Post In This Series: Assumptions On Our Part
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Originally posted 2010-10-03 23:01:00. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

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