5 Ways To Encourage Your Pastor’s Wife

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My wife, Shilo Schank

Behind every good pastor, there is a pastor’s wife! There to stand, often in the shadows, behind her best friend, confidante, lover, and preacher. While many times accolades are given to her husband, she quietly cheers him on; often without visibility to others. Every pastor’s wife needs encouragement!

Listed below are just 5 suggestions as to how this can be accomplished. You can add your own to it, but, by all means, employ what you know in service of Jesus Christ. Feel free to leave suggestions in the comment section at the conclusion of this article.

#1 – Always Acknowledge Her When She Is In The Presence Of Her Husband

Many times people come up and speak with the pastor and never say as much as a, “Hello!” to his wife… and she is in plain view! By making eye contact and acknowledging her in word will go a long ways. This practice will help her feel like she is involved and not forgotten.

#2 – Be Positive And Always Compliment Her Children When Appropriate

The way to a mother’s heart is through her children. If your pastor and wife has children, young or old, then compliment them meaningfully and periodically. This shows that you care and appreciate them AND their children.

#3 – Seek Ways To Help Her Perform Her Responsibilities

The pastor’s wife wears many hats like her husband. There is much to be done at home and church. If the ladies of the church would seek to help in whatever capacity they can, then this would serve to alleviate the pastor’s wife of undue stress.

#4 – Take Her Shopping

I have not met a lady yet that didn’t like to go shopping. Pastor’s wives are no exception! Many times they will go without or settle for second and third best so as to do for others. The church family should make up for that! One way is by taking her shopping on the church’s dime!

#5 – Organize A “Pastor’s Wife Appreciation Day” At Church

Many congregations will have a Pastor’s Appreciation Day and never have one for his wife. She is not a fifth wheel! She is his helpmeet! If possible, there should be an all out commitment for a Pastor’s Wife Appreciation Day to take place from time to time. Pull out all the stops, and make it big. She will smile and appreciate what you do!


These are just a few ideas that one could take and run with to encourage their pastor’s wife. When she is not happy, your pastor is not. Encourage him by encouraging her!


When Was The Last Time You Did Something To Encourage Your Pastor’s Wife?

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By Larry Howland / Parsons Pen

Measures 15.5″ x 12.5″. Light oak finish frame. Neutral mat. A pastor is a faithful friend/Who has his Father’s flock to tend./He cares for us through trying days,/Retrieves the lamb who sometimes strays./He brings us loving words from God,/Of Moses’ feats with Aaron’s rod,/Of Daniel in the lion’s den,/Of godly women and their men./From parables the Master taught/To understanding what Paul thought./He speaks to us of God’s dear Son,/Of unity, so we’ll be one./When sick or sad he’s always there/To comfort, guide and offer prayer./He’s tender, caring, meek and kind;/The Spirit’s in his heart and mind. And She’s like a fresh and lovely rose/That angels planted, then God chose./He gave her soft and gentle ways/To help us through our trying days./She walks with us through pain and loss/And lives the meaning of the cross./She always thinks of others first/And loves us when we’re at our worst./She has such kind and gentle ways/And builds us up with words of praise./Her tears and prayers and long hours spent/Have helped so many to repent./A confidant with whom to share,/A partner when it comes to prayer,/Two blessings in a Christian’s life/Are pastor and his faithful wife.

Originally posted 2010-09-04 23:01:00. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

About Andrew Schank

Andrew Schank is an Independent Baptist Missionary/Pastor who loves to blog about spiritual matters! His main ministry website is http://www.togetherinthegap.com. Andrew is also a contributing author to two other blogs/websites including http://linked2leadership.com and http://www.ifbkjv.com. Pastor Schank's Church website is http://www.greatcommissionbaptist.org
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